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LOVE LIFTED ME   in reply to LOVE LIFTED ME   on

GreenJet: I lost my husband almost 3 yrs. Ago. I made bad choices not doing things right or on time.

MY DEAR FRIENDS YES I HAVE HAD A HARD==BAD LIKE NOT ONLY WAS I LIVING IN 11 SHACKS GROWING UP MY DEAR HUSBAND DROP OVER DEAD OVER 30 YEARS AGO ,'' I HAD A YOUNG BABY SON DAVID THAT TOLD ME HE HAD DIDED ON THE TABLE AT 9 YEARS OLD WHEN THEY PUT A PACE MAKER IN HE SEEN THE LIGHTS OF HEAVEN BUT GOD DID NOT WANT HIM AT THE TIME HE STILL HAS THE PASE MAKER,'' PLUS STEVEN DALE MY OLDER SON GOT KILLED ON ONE OF THOSE FOUR WHEELERS,'' THE MIDDLE SON RICKY IS IN VERY BAD SHAPE CANNOT WORK HE IS DISABLED,'' MY LORD KNOWS ALL MY TROUBLE BUT I STILL MARCH WITH HIM FOR I WANT TO BE WITH HIM WHEN I LEAVE THIS OLD WORLD,'' I NEED TO HELP MY SON'S SO I AM ASKING THE LORD FOR THAT MOVIE,''
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LOVE LIFTED ME  

NOTHING BUT LOVE,'': MY LORD IS MY SOUL KEEPER,'' TO HAVE LIVED THE BAD LIFE I LIVED MAKES ME A MUCH STRONGER

MY LORD IS MY SOUL KEEPER,'' TO HAVE LIVED THE BAD LIFE I LIVED MAKES ME A MUCH STRONGER PERSON AND TO KNOW MY GOD IS REAL,'' for I can feel him in my soul,''
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LOVE LIFTED ME   in reply to LOVE LIFTED ME   on

GreenJet: I lost my husband almost 3 yrs. Ago. I made bad choices not doing things right or on time.

I AM 76 YEARS OLD,'' GOD BLESS YOU ALL I LOOK FOR MY LORD'S RETURN,'' LOVE LIFTED ME,'' I SEE A LOT OF MY POST IS NOT HERE,'' HOPE IT IS NOT LOST IN SPACE,'' PLEASE RETURN,'' GOD'S SPEED====
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LOVE LIFTED ME   in reply to If the World hears us please h   on

GreenJet: I lost my husband almost 3 yrs. Ago. I made bad choices not doing things right or on time.

I LOST MY HUSBAND OVER 30 YEARS AGO I HAVE A DISABLED SON I take care of in my home,'' I am the only one to pay all bills,'' I have another son with a pace maker at the age of 9 they put it in,'' he is in debt over 500,0000 from a bad marrage,''I know my lord hears my cry and will help me,''MY OLDER SON STEVEN GOT KILLED ON ONE OF THEM FOUR WHEELER'S,''I WOULD LOVE TO HAVE THAT MOVIE OF MY BOOK THE MOONSHINER'S DAUGHTER,''I WILL BE ABLE TO HELP THE TRUE PEOPLE THAT NEED MY HELP,'' ALSO ISRAEL MY HEART AND SOUL,''
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If the World hears us please h  

GreenJet: I lost my husband almost 3 yrs. Ago. I made bad choices not doing things right or on time.

I lost my husband almost 3 yrs. Ago. I made bad choices not doing things right or on time. It was like time Froze. Almost like I was in complete shock the 1 yr. Then as I thought it would get better I went to. my first love who we always seemed to have bad timing but never forgot. Our feelings never changed........ They still haven't but as always hes with someone not married but has a daughter with her. He' s got same feelings for me but he won't leave his family he's sorta doing ok there to. His girl is only like 8 yrs. So its bad timing again. I'm losing everything or possibly but not yet. No Life insurance that I know of. I'm in a similar boat as you but my son is. 21. Where do you live? Or a state? I am also 2 classes shy of my
B.A. in C.Just & Psy.
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If the World hears us please h   in reply to xoxangeleyes   on

My Journey to Rock Bottom: I think I've reached it.. I'm lost. I don't know how I got here.

How old are you hon. if I may ask? I'm 42. A woman. in the same boat almost....
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xoxangeleyes  

My Journey to Rock Bottom: I think I've reached it.. I'm lost. I don't know how I got here.

My Journey to Rock Bottom

I think I've reached it... Rock Bottom. I'm lost. I don't know how I got here - I thought I was taking the right path. My journey has not been easy, but long & tough with many bumps along the way. It may have been rough, slowed me down, even stopped me a couple times, but I still kept going...I did. No, this cannot be possible.. or my destination must be impossible.

Can somebody help me, with the right direction? I've lost so many things a long the way--everything except for my 6 year old son, who has been on this journey with me. We lost his father in the beginning, our guide.. it would of been different if he was here, helping us along the way. I guess he needed to take his place in Heaven, but I still don't understand. We just want him back, for him to find us again.

I thought I was doing a good job, taking the lead. I found us a safe place to stay, for awhile. If only....If only my job wasn't temporary, I wouldn't be down this road. If only I could of finished those few credits I had left in college, we'd be celebrating. If only I could turn back, and try a different turn along the way. If only.... If only time could rewind and return to us everything that was lost.

I'm scared here. I wasn't heading towards Rock Bottom-- I'm not supposed to be here. We can't be here. My son has only me to follow, he didn't have a choice. I should of been a better guide. Maybe I missed a turn somewhere, somewhere too far back for me to turn around and find. I'll just get lost again.


THIS IS MY EMOTIONS RIGHT NOW.... IM A YOUNG SINGLE MOTHER OF A 6 YEAR OLD BOY. HIS FATHER PASSED AWAY, SO ITS JUST US NOW. I WAS IN COLLEGE ON THE HONOR ROLL AND HAD 2 JOBS, BUT IT ENDED AND SO DID MY APARTMENT...I ALSO HAD A TICKET THAT I COULD NOT PAY CAUSING ME TO LOSE MY LICENSE. NOW WE RECENTLY BECAME HOMELESS WHICH CAUSED ME TO FAIL MY CLASSES AND I LOST MY FINANCIAL AID. IM IN A GARAGE RIGHT NOW AND AM DESPERATE TO HAVE A HOME AGAIN FOR MY SON.... I HAVE NOTHING BESIDES HIM, THATS ALL I NEED BUT IM SCARED THAT IF I DONT GET OUT SOON I WILL TRULY HAVE NOTHING ELSE TO LOSE..... I HAVE TRIED EVERY RESOURCE OUT THERE!!! 211 INCLUDED---NO FUNDS! :((

-- XOXANGELEYES@GMAIL.COM
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pacheco  

61YR.Old . Need assistance w/car to travel to doctor appts., school .I had. left lknee surgery and not able to walk far. I have only one income, need to pay my rent. I am also a widow.

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sadnana  

Sad Nana

Christmas is pretty bleak. My husband passed away last December from Non-Hogdkins Lymphoma, and I've been struggling ever since to take care of my two granddaughters. I work and it seems after bills and food there is nothing left over. I can't afford to buy them a Christmas presents. I haven't even bought myself shoes or clothing in over a year, any extra money which is very little goes for extra things they may need. My heart is already broken because I lost the love of my life. Not knowing what to do at christmas is another heartache I have to endure. One granddaughter is 18 and in high school, the other one is 12 and in junior high school.
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idnic  

online grief support

I found a wonderful site that has chat rooms for people who are grieving a loss of a loved one. I had been going to this site for about a month now but never got up enough guts to chat. But Yesterday was the 3 month anniversary of my husbands death. Between that and Thanksgiving I could not stop sobbing. I was at the end of my rope and feeling totally overwhelmed so I mustered up my strength and chatted. At first I couldn't see the computer screen through my tears but within 15 minutes I felt so much better and not so all alone. This site is called GROWW and the url is www.groww.org they have different rooms that focus on different types of loss such as loss of children, recently widowed, loss to suicide, etc. It really does help to be with others who really know what you are going through. I regret waiting so long to chat but am so grateful that people are willing to share.
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justus2010  

Wiped out widow...

I love my husband.If he were still alive no
way things would have gotten this
bad....ugh....i should have educated myself
while he was alive,prepared myself just in
case....I coudnt make myself believe he was
really dying...and then he did.. ugh²..
Now CPS has my kids because Im
poor.....my fault...i kinda fell apart when he
died and by the time i snapped out of it,our
financial situation had snowballed.
Disability is pending,and i cant work...my
hands are messed up pretty bad.
I have no electric or water and my
children,who are as necessary to me as
oxygen to live,cant come home til i have
utilities.
Im not sure what kind of help I need,but if
nothing else a bunch of helpful people
praying for us cant hurt.
If you are in a position to help with utilities
until we start receiving our benefits,please
help us.
Im at the end of my rope and my children
ate miserable and Im helpless to save
them.Its a really bad and shameful feeling
that tries like hell to take you down.
On top of mourning my husband,Im beat.
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justus2010  

Wiped out widow......

I love my husband.If he were still alive no
way things would have gotten this
bad....ugh....i should have educated myself
while he was alive,prepared myself just in
case....I coudnt make myself believe he was
really dying...and then he did.. ugh²..
Now CPS has my kids because Im
poor.....my fault...i kinda fell apart when he
died and by the time i snapped out of it,our
financial situation had snowballed.
Disability is pending,and i cant work...my
hands are messed up pretty bad.
I have no electric or water and my
children,who are as necessary to me as
oxygen to live,cant come home til i have
utilities.
Im not sure what kind of help I need,but if
nothing else a bunch of helpful people
praying for us cant hurt.
If you are in a position to help with utilities
until we start receiving our benefits,please
help us.
Im at the end of my rope and my children
ate miserable and Im helpless to save
them.Its a really bad and shameful feeling
that tries like hell to take you down.
On top of mourning my husband,Im beat.
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Anonymous  

I need Help...

I need a nice caring person to pay my next Electric bill, I will give you my Name and Address and the name of my Electric Co and thier Phone number and you can call them to pay my bill by credit card, you do not have to send me any money. We have had over 60 days over 90 degrees and 30 days now of 100+ degree weather here, like today it will be 109 degrees, im a 51 year old working widow woman who only makes minum wage of $7.25 an hour and i live in a moblie home, i have 2 window ac units i have to run to keep me an my dog cool, with this heat i have to run them 24 hours a day and im on a extreamly tight budget, normaly we dont get this heat till august-sept and i can pay over on my june july bills to help pay on my august - sept bills but sinec the heat came several months earlier to our area i wasnt able to add credit to my account. My elderly parents are on SS and cant help, I wont be able to pay you back for the money, i just dont have it, so it really needs to be a donation from a giving heart. Thank you, Rebecca an Mightydog my german shepard
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chosin  

My mom needs help to deal with her deceased husbands adult children.

My mothers husband passed away in December of 09 and they were together 18 years and married for the last 3 of those years. He was a Marine his whole life, he was one of the Chosin Few. They did not have children together, and when they married she signed a prenup, which was done on the day of their marriage and has been proven to be invalid. He had children from a previous marriage and they are all money hungry and malicious. They never liked my mother, even though she spent the last 2 years taking care of him as his health got really bad. They have thrown away my moms belongs that she had from before they met and are selling off items from their home even though there is a court order not too. Is there any organization out there that my mother can talk to that knows what she is going through and can help her work through all of this. He passed over a year ago and has only been able to go to the cemetary twice because they would not let her. She hasnt been able to truly grieve the loss of her husband/her best friend. Please I really really need help.
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David's widow  

Not alone in this position

I am trying to get some kind of financial help. I am a widow and have never asked anyone for any help before, but after losing my husband and several other family members within a 7 month period, I am having severe health issues, have been out of work for almost a year, have filed for disability, but employer has not sent back form, so am about to lose my home. I am behind in mortgage and am just trying to keep it. I am embarrassed to have to ask strangers for help, but have no one here to help me. Even though my husband served his country for almost half his life, earned over 13 medals, the military added insult to injury by first telling me I would get help and then refused to help. I am desparate.
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Anonymous  

Funeral Help

Have only made a couple of posts here. Am not on Computer much. My problem was ways to help pay for husbands funeral. I have other issues but this is one of the most important. I know I am blessed with a home, food, car, family who cares. It makes me sad to see people who need so many things I take for granted. If I could get my priorities straight I would try to give others a hand up (Not out). Our system is set up to help those who don't help themselves and not those of us who try to help ourselves. We are in the middle.
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Rennie Joy  

Aidpage Open Letter: Single mom, Widowed, doesn't qualify for help from the government

To the attention of:

Barack Obama, US President;
Rick Scott, Governor of Florida;
US Senators from Florida: Bill Nelson, Marco Rubio;
US Representatives from Florida: Adam H. Putnam, Alan Grayson, Alcee L. Hastings, Allen Boyd, Ander Crenshaw, Bill Posey, C. W. Bill Young, Cliff Stearns, Connie Mack, Corrine Brown, Debbie Wasserman Schultz, Ginny Brown-Waite, Gus M. Bilirakis, Ileana Ros-Lehtinen, Jeff Miller, John L. Mica, Kathy Castor, Kendrick B. Meek, Lincoln Diaz-Balart, Mario Diaz-Balart, Ron Klein, Sandy Adams, Theodore E. Deutch, Thomas J. Rooney, Vern Buchanan;
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I am a widow and  single mother of two sons. I am fortunte enough to get social security survivor's benefits for myself and my sons however I have not been able to find any other type of aid. I run out of money 2 weeks after receiving my monthly payment which means I struggle for neccessities such as food, water, electric, etc... I do not qualify for food stamps or pretty much any kind of assistance because I apparently get too much money. I have a large amount of credit card debt am I suppose to not pay the money I owe in order to support my family. It just doesn't seem fair and I can't be the only one in this situation. I do not feel it's right to not pay my debts, true I should not have gotten into the financial troubles but I have found out that I have bipolar disorder which explains to a degree why I am in this situation. Why isn't there help for middle class people who want to be able to get a head but can't. My 2 sons eat a lot and I spend a lot on groceries. My property taxes are due and I have no idea how I will pay them. I see other states with outreach programs for widows but most of the help is for widows of veterns. Sorry my husband didn't serve in the military but he was a good provider and I just want to be able to feed, cloth, and property shelter my kids.

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Post Open Letter to your Elected Representatives

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Hoppi  

Want My Life Back

Hi! I am a widow, and I am also disabled and raising my 13 year old daughter. I currently live in Washington State. I do not go out much except to the doctor and grocery store when I am able. I am no longer able to walk very well due to back problems. I am in dire need of a vehicle.
I am unable to make payments on a reliable vehicle and my credit is not good due to previous financial problems and with the death of my husband 2 years ago it is difficult to make ends meet.
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dayehenderlite  

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Jesseed  

About Jesseed

Hi, I need a money aid because me and my mom have problems with the house and my school I was studying and we got a terrible hit of the life when my dad died and he left us with a debt in my school and the house so we need 80,000 dlls. to get out of this problems also I am hypertense and I need medicines that are a little expensive like around 150 dlls a month, and we are alone here and no one else can help us.

I appreciate your help if you help me with 1.00 dollar or whatever you want.

Thanks.

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